Social Anxiety Disorder and Exploding Lives

May 12th was my last post. It has been two months. How much can possibly go wrong in two months? I know setbacks are normal and sometimes you can’t help it. Though, when life explodes, setbacks become obstacles that are tough to hurdle.

Life exploded. I gained the weight back due to depression, and stress eating from everything that has happened in these last two months. Let me break it down for you, but first, I want to talk about Social Anxiety Disorder, if I may.

I’m having one of those days.

Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD) can be debilitating in ways that many people don’t understand. For those of us with a high severity of the disorder, appointments become nightmares. We have to psych ourselves up to even get out the door. Forget public transit. That’s the fastest way to end up in the emergency room from a panic attack. Having someone knock on your door unexpectedly, especially if it’s someone you don’t know, can cause an entire day or more of crippling anxiety. Talking on the phone for ten minutes can drain us to the point that we desperately need a nap. Some of us turn off our phones and pretend our batteries are dead just so we can have a day without an anxiety attack.

Grocery shopping? Once a month. Not because I can’t budget my money to go for fresh things every week, but because I can’t deal with that many people at one time more than once a month. And, don’t tell someone with Social Anxiety Disorder to go at night when no one is there, because that makes it worse. With people all around, you can at least sometimes pretend you’re invisible. Going at night, every time you see a living person, they feel obligated to single you out for a greeting. Night shopping is terrifying.

“But you don’t act terrified of people.”

My common coping mechanisms include acting bubbly or ‘easy to talk to’ in an attempt at diffusing the situation fast enough to get away and hide. Dealing with family is easier. They are safe. Some family members, though, still freak me out. Going to my son’s birthday party with strange people and children? I came home, took two ativan, and hid in my shower until the panic went away.

Job? I’ve been fired from more jobs for freaking out and hiding in the back room during panic attacks, than I have had successful job runs. There were only two job runs I was able to stay at. Avaya, in which I was tech support. I would often play the After Call Work button game to keep dropping me to the bottom of the call queue just so I could calm down between calls. I had so many reprimands for this that I was due to be fired, but since the company was closing the office in my city, and I didn’t have seniority to transfer locations, they let me stay until the doors closed.

Social Anxiety Disorder can be lonely.

Living with severe social anxiety disorder is lonely. Family stops wanting you near. Friends disappear because you aren’t ‘fun’. You can’t go to movies or hang out at bars or clubs because you may end up in the hospital. Leaving the house is physically painful. You become isolated, called a hermit, called lazy. We don’t want to live this way. Even with medication, this isn’t something that goes away. The worst thing about Social Anxiety Disorder, is the ongoing and pervasive fear of dying alone. Of never having friends. Of never getting married. Of never connecting with anyone else ever again, because it’s too stressful.

Living with a disorder isn’t fun. It isn’t a get money free pass. Disability isn’t something I would wish on anyone. The stigma that surrounds mental disorders is so thick that it’s hard to breathe. We aren’t moochers. We aren’t lying. We aren’t “working the system”. We are human beings. Just like someone suffering paralysis, we are disabled. Only, it’s our brains that are broken, not our bodies. Just because you can’t see the problem doesn’t mean we aren’t suffering.

Life Exploded

Now I can get into why my fitness goals have been flushed down the toilet for the last two months. I had a full relapse that has sent my SAD into overdrive. The stress eating has made me gain back all the weight I lost and then some. Needless to say, it has not been a pleasant experience.

In May, I was so excited about my fitness regimen that I bordered on religious zeal with it. It was fun, exciting, and the community here was great. The community still is, but on May 13th, my Bipolar Disorder took a depressive swing that I couldn’t shake until June. It was the longest run of a downswing that I have had since I changed medication three years ago. Even now, I’m not sure what caused it. But, it knocked me flat, and just coming on here made me feel lethargic to the point where I couldn’t do anything.

June 3rd, my brakes went out on my van. After many trips to mechanics and lots of heartache because I got told several times that I needed 23-25 feet of brake line, I found out that I only needed to refill my brake fluid. However, the mechanics let me know that my van had two holes the size of my open hand in the frame, and my inspection was due to run out on the 30th.

On Supplemental Security Income, major expenses are crippling.

I only make $881 a month on SSI. After paying bills, I barely have enough to buy groceries. My mechanic cousin convinced me to take my van two hours away to the garage where he works to give a fourth opinion. When he put my van up on the lift, he found the two holes and showed them to me. Then, he showed me several more places where the frame was only millimeters thick. After his assessment, he let me know that my van is not worth fixing. And, because scrap is down, it is only worth $300.

And because I have no credit and am on a fixed income that labels me well below the poverty guidelines (poverty guidelines are currently $15,000 a year, I get $10,500 per year), I can only find one place where I can get a vehicle loan. Kurt Johnson Auto will trade in my worthless van for $2,000 toward a used vehicle if I can come up with $1,500 for tax, tag, and title. With my current income and expenses, that will take me over a year. This means going over a year without transportation. Due to my Social Anxiety Disorder, public transportation is not an option.

Renter’s Insurance can be a pain.

The week of June 8th, lightning struck my trailer. I have renter’s insurance, so I thought I would be covered. And, since I have a laptop and replacement parts for my desktop, I had planned on using the insurance money to help me get reliable transportation. However, things did not go as planned.

The insurance adjuster treated me like a criminal. She asked me for a list of affected components and pictures, which I happily sent. Then, asked for reciepts, which I also sent without issue. After this, she sent an insurance investigator to my house to ask me a ton of questions. And, since I have Social Anxiety Disorder, things did not go well. She sent a man who acted like a police officer, and he scared the ever-bleeding crap out of me.

Over a month after I filed, my insurance adjuster denied the claim. Appeals did nothing, but cause me anxiety and heartache with nothing to show for it.

Rock, meet Hard Place.

Because I am unable to hold a job, I have set up a GoFundMe campaign to help with the van expenses. I’m between that rock and hard place, and I’m stuck. You know how I mentioned earlier that those with Social Anxiety Disorder are sometimes called ‘mooches’ and told to get a job? I have personal experience with this.

In my facebook inbox, I have received several messages from strangers and friends alike. Every single one of them was derogatory. They ranged from “You know you live in [redacted]. You could just, you know, get a JOB.” to “Quit trying to mooch off people.” and “I never thought my friend would be a con artist.”

A con artist. A mooch. Get a job.

These aren’t things restricted only to those with my disorder. Anyone on SSI or SSDI who is under the age of 65 or not missing a limb, and needs financial help usually hears these things at least once. Most hear them, or something like them, on a regular basis.

I need your help.

If you can help with a donation, or can give me information on how to get help with funding, I would appreciate it. The link to the campaign is http://www.gofundme.com/x6h4mfk and shares to help me reach my goal would be awesome.

I apologize for such a long post. However, I need help, and awareness for mental disorders and mental disabilities needs boosted. I am not alone. Anxiety disorders alone are rated “the most common mental illness in the U.S.

We try to be independent and strong. But, sometimes we need help. And often, our families and friends don’t understand, no matter how much or how well we try to explain our disabilities. So, I’m asking for your help.

If you suffer a mental disorder or any other chronic illness or disability, you are amazing and I applaud your strength and courage. If you support someone with a disability, whether emotionally, physically, or financially, you are a hero and I hope you know how much I appreciate each and every one of you. Thank you.

Day 12

I went back on my CIB diet today temporarily. Mainly because I got lazy, and I had an eye appointment today that kept me out of the house most of the day. When I got home, I was so drained, and my eyes felt weird from being dilated, that I just gave up and went for the easy and mess-free way of eating.

I did, however, get my fruit packaged up and put away for now. I’ll be taking bluesparklez0 advice and portioning out some of my fruits for smoothies. I have… tons of fruit. I also plan on cutting up my apples and things and making snack packs. Basically, just individual servings, already cut up so my lazy ass can just go to the fridge, grab a snack and go back to my comfy chair for noms. I have a ton of ziplock baggies, so I plan on doing this for everything, from my raisins and sunflower seeds, to my fruits and veggies.

Either today or tomorrow, I’m making crockpot chicken stew. Instead of cornstarch or cream, I plan on boiling some of that yummy cauliflower and pureeing it to add to the chicken broth. Add some carrots, celery, an onion, chicken breast, and guh, I wish I had leeks. I may wait until tomorrow so I can nab some leeks. That would make the stew so much nom. Or, I can just add cabbage. That would work since I have no money.

Alright, so, dinner for tomorrow is planned. Tonight, I’m having either tilapia fillet and some kind of salad, or I’ll have chicken breast… and some kind of salad. Any suggestions for the salad are welcome!

I need recipes!

I’ve been looking all over the internet for recipes that I can make with my kale. So far, I found kale chips and salad. I thought it was more versatile than that. So, I may end up putting some in my smoothies to boost vitamin intake. Though, with the Whole30 diet, I’m supposed to cut all dairy except butter. I usually make my smoothies with plain yogurt. Will have to research this to figure out what to use instead. Then again, I had CIB today, which includes 2 cups of 0% milk per serving… So, I guess I can include yogurt in my diet, and just limit my smoothies.

Who knew diets took so much research? I feel like I’m back in school again!

Pain Management

One thing I need to do is call my doctor and make an appointment for my joints. Both my shoulders keep randomly dislocating. So do my knees. My left hip constantly aches, especially after my workouts. If I’m going to keep working out, I need to deal with the pain in some other way than just taking Aleve every day. I’m not the kind who likes popping pills for anything. I hate it. So bad.

That will get done tomorrow, as well as a few other errands. Today, I’m popping Aleve and hoping my hip stops screaming enough to get on my Gazelle. I can’t lose weight if I’m not active, but it’s so hard to be active when you’re in pain. But, that’s enough about that. Time for a rant.

Eye Exam Rant

Do you know how hard it is to find an eye doctor when you’re on Medicaid? Let me tell you… Three months. It took me three months to find an optometrist who would take my insurance. No place in my city would, so I had to drive two cities over in order to get my eye exam.

Then, I found out that my health insurance only covers the cost of the exam itself. It doesn’t cover the cost of eye glasses or contacts unless you have aphakia… which I do not have. I’ve scoured the internet, and I found zennioptical.com. For my eye glasses, it will be around $60. More affordable than the $400 I was quoted at my eye doctor’s showroom, but still. I’m on SSI. Right now, I’m in the position where I can either buy groceries, or I can buy my glasses, but have to cut out half my grocery bill next month. $50 for groceries (plus $71 from food stamps) doesn’t buy much, certainly not enough for an entire month when you’re on a new diet and still learning how to shop for it.

I just want to see. It’s hard to concentrate when you have to have all of your browsers and writing documents at 175% just so you can read and work.

No matter what, though, I’m getting my glasses. My eye health is worth a month of skimpy meals.

Out of Storage

Well, crap. So, between writing this and my eye exam rant, I went and started packaging up food… because I could, and because I wanted a snack. I had fifteen storage bowls.

I’m down to one.

Guess who needs to buy more storage bowls? I planned on making stew in my crock pot, and making a few other crock pot meals so I could freeze them and have noms every night without the fuss. Well, can’t really do that without stuff to store the soups, stews and other fun stuff in.

What does this mean? This means I have to make some money quick, and I’m trying to wring ideas out of my gray matter. It isn’t working too well. I currently have 66 cents to my name, and storage bowls are expensive as hell. I may see if I can squeeze some money out of my parents and take a gander at the Dollar General for some storage deals.

*Flails* Why, money? Why? Ah well, we shall see what tomorrow brings!

Day 11 and My Grocery List

Went grocery shopping today. I wiped out my bank account, but I have enough to last me the month (I hope). Here’s what I bought, Fruit first, Pantry, then Meats:

Grocery List
Food Price Store
Gala Apples $   2.99 Aldi
McKintosh Apples $   2.99 Aldi
Blackberries (4) $   3.96 Aldi
Cherries $   3.49 Aldi
Raspberries (2) $   3.98 Aldi
Lemons $   1.49 Aldi
Grapes (2) $   4.98 Aldi
Kiwi (2) $   1.38 Aldi
Strawberries (4) $   5.96 Aldi
Carrots $   1.29 Aldi
Pickles $   2.29 Aldi
Multi-Color Peppers $   2.99 Aldi
Green Peppers $   1.49 Aldi
Onions $   1.09 Aldi
Celery $   1.29 Aldi
Green Onions $   0.99 Aldi
Broccoli $   1.49 Aldi
Cauliflower $   2.49 Aldi
Kale (2) $   3.78 Aldi
Cabbage $   1.19 Aldi
Iceberg Lettuce $   1.29 Aldi
Slivered Almonds (2) $   5.98 Aldi
Sunflower Kernels $   1.99 Aldi
Onion Soup Mix $   0.79 Aldi
Butter (2) $   4.78 Aldi
Canned Mushrooms (4) $   2.36 Aldi
Milk (2 gal) $   6.74 Aldi
Mashed Potatoes (2) $   1.58 Aldi
X Virgin Olive Oil $   3.29 Aldi
Pure Olive Oil $   2.99 Aldi
Organic Coconut Oil $   4.99 Aldi
Stevia Sweetener $   1.99 Aldi
Raisins Canister $   2.89 Aldi
Beef Broth (4) $   5.56 Aldi
Chicken Broth (4) $   5.56 Aldi
Chili w/o Beans $   1.29 Aldi
Chicken Tenderloins $   6.79 Aldi
Chicken Breast $   6.69 Aldi
Canned Chicken Breast (4) $   6.76 Aldi
Boneless Ham $   8.48 Aldi
Encrusted Tilapia $   5.29 Aldi
Bob Evans Pork Sausage (2) $   6.78 Aldi
TOTAL $146.46

Things I still need to get, probably from Wal-Mart:

Eggs, Green Tea, Steak, Deli Meats and Cheeses, Baby Spinach Leaves, Garlic, Apple Cider Vinegar, Cat Litter, Dryer Sheets.

So sorry for not posting the last few days. The Special Olympics really took everything out of me. At least, I think that’s why I spent most of the weekend asleep. I couldn’t stay up more than an hour or two at a time, and I’m still fighting fatigue. I’m hoping this diet perks me back up. I bought so many yummy things!

I did weigh myself Saturday, and according to my scale, I am about 5 pounds lighter than when I started, so YAY!

Exercise

Because I spent most of my time in bed since Thursday, I’ve done absolutely no exercise, and I’m sad about that fact. I also haven’t been eating much or doing much of anything. If this keeps up, I’ll be heading to my doctor this week to see what’s up. Until then, I’ve gone back on my vitamins to help with the deficiencies of not eating, drinking water until I float, and I’m about to get on my Gazelle and plow through 5 minutes of exercise.

Then, since I’m up, I’m going to go try and get this fruit and stuff packed up properly in my fridge so it lasts more than a few days. I’m hoping everything I bought lasts the whole month, but we shall see.

If anyone has any bright ideas on what to do with all this stuff, I am all ears. Until then, I need to get my butt on that Gazelle and get food sorted before I pass out again.

Day 8

Sorry for completely missing yesterday. I went to my son’s Special Olympics. For the most part, it was awesome. I didn’t need to do my Gazelle, because I spent six whole hours walking, jogging, and running around an entire football field going from one event to another taking pictures and following my parents and son around. During those six hours, I amassed an impressive (and painful) sunburn, even through two applications of sun block. I also missed a few areas with the sunblock, and those are the worst. The sun block areas are already tanned.

With the sunburn, I came home with heat exhaustion, sore muscles, muscle cramps, and fatigue. I also came back with some awesome pictures. Yes, that is me behind my son and parents so I wouldn’t have to show my body.

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Food yesterday was simple. I had eggs and ham with some shredded cheese for breakfast (wasn’t supposed to have the cheese), and two hot dogs with mustard for lunch (wasn’t supposed to have the buns). For supper, I was too hot to eat, so I had a glass of CIB. I think I drank at least two gallons of water.

Today, it was a day of sleep. I literally slept the whole day from 3am (when I finally was able to fall asleep) until around 5pm. I was awake about an hour where I drank water until I floated, then slept again until around 10pm. Then, it was another nap until 3am. So, apparently, I overdid it yesterday. Not sure why, but I’m not hungry at all, and trying to eat makes me nauseous. So, think I’m still suffering effects from the heat. Let’s hope (the real) today is better than the day I slept through. Maybe I can actually stay awake.

Day 6

Today was a total bust. Why? Well, it’s 10:26 pm, and I just woke up. So, guess who is going to spend the next 24 hours awake? Since my day starts now, and midnight is just a short while away, I’m making this really, really short. Just a little check in. I’m counting what’s left of today as tomorrow.

Let’s hope ‘tomorrow’ is better than ‘today’. However, tomorrow is going to be interesting. I just looked at the date, and then realized that my son’s Special Olympics is tomorrow. So, not only will I be dragging ass, I will be doing so in the heat. In the heat, with a date.

Oh, tomorrow is going to be interesting… Wish me luck!

Day 5

Well, today was a success and a failure. But, I’m not focusing too much on the failure. I got a lot done today, and I’m quite proud of myself. Unfortunately, most of that “lot” that got done, was reading my beta-reader pile and getting back with authors who are depending on me to help them with feedback. Not a waste of time, but didn’t allow me to focus as much time on my diet plan as I would have liked, and I ended up skipping a few meals in the process.

I traded gold for crap. It’s rare that I come across a story that I hate. But, this wasn’t even a story. It was a string of daily journal entries, which for a blog would be fine. For fiction, it was tedious, boring, inane, and soul crushing. I just hope I didn’t crush the poor author, and hope like hell I gave her advice good enough to salvage some of the neat things that I found in the trash. I don’t like crushing dreams, but I do like digging for gold.

The Great Outdoors

So, enough with my decaying brain matter. I had to go outside today. As someone with social anxiety, this is always a chore. I had to practically throw myself out my front door and race to my van, otherwise I would have gone right back inside, got in my jammies, and sat right back in front of my computer where I feel safest.

I went to the post office. Success. Paid my rent. Success. Then, I parked on a street leading to my street, and walked to the smoke shop. Traffic was so horrid due to road work, that if I had driven the two hilly blocks, it would have taken me an hour to get out of the smoke shop’s drive so I could get home. Nope. Nope. Nope. So. I walked. Going downhill, I felt like I would faceplant at any moment. Going uphill, I felt like my legs were going to catch fire, and I would turn into the Burning Woman of Clarion. It was grueseome.

So, needless to say, that was my five minutes of Gazelle time in real world application, so I skipped the machine today. I may still go do my five minutes for shits and giggles before I go to bed, but as of right now… I still feel like death would make my poor muscles happy. 😛

I Really Need a Dietician

If I can’t find one I can afford, I’ll be doing it based on my own past medical history. I’m thinking of doing the Whole30 diet. It’s basically a low carb, high fat, low/no dairy diet, which is good for me since my lactose intolerance decided to make my life smell miserable. It’s low carbs because of no pasta, breads, starches or added sugars (mainly added sugars), and high fat, because low-fat options take out taste by removing fat, and supplement taste by adding sugars and, even worse, sugar substitutes.

Best thing? The Whole30 has shopping lists already made for you, that you can add to, subtract from, whatever you want to do to it to make it work for you.

Even better? I don’t see anything on the site that I have to buy from them. They give me all the information I need to make my own informed choices. It gives me advice for how to structure my meals, what to eat pre-workout, post-workout, and the best things to snack on.

SNACKS! Did I ever mention how much I love snacks. A diet that tells me I am allowed to have snacks sounds too good to be true. But, I’ve been reading, and from everything I read the past few days off WebMD and other sources for healthy diet and nutrition, the Whole30 diet is the same thing, only Whole30 encourages you to eat whole fat foods, rather than going after low-fat, fat-free/nonfat alternatives. Not sure how I feel about this approach, but I have three friends who have lost weight with this system. One of whom lost 6 dress sizes, and is still on the diet because it keeps her satisfied. Even on the days of her hardest workouts.

So, I’m really paying attention to this. If I decide to give it a try, I’ll keep you posted.

Men smiled at me…

I’m not sure if it’s my confidence boost, or I’m just noticing it, or what, but when I was out, every man I passed smiled at me. I feel vaguely uncomfortable by this, but I think that has to do with the fact that I actually made eye contact with everyone I passed today. I don’t make eye contact unless I have to. What the hell changed that it happened the entire two hours I was out and about today?

The women? The women I passed kinda scowled. o.O Not sure what that was all about, but you know what? The ladies in the post office were awesome, so they balance out the scowly hens. 😀

Also… why is it that men can smile at everyone, but if you pass by a woman on the street, nine times out of ten, they will either pretend you don’t exist, or scowl at you? Are women afraid of each other? Put off by one another? Maybe I offended them by wearing a black jacket and black jeans with my girly pink blouse, socks and blue and pink shoes. But, whatever it was, I kinda wanted to hide in the post office by the time I made it to the front doors…

Eyeglasses, or food…?

I’ve got an eye appointment, the first in over four years, on the 12th. I finally found an eye doctor who takes my insurance. It’s 30 minutes away, but it’s worth it for my eyeballs. Now? Found out that my insurance covers eye exams, but not lenses or frames unless you have aphakia. Why? I dunno. It’s ridiculous. It’s like, “We want you to get your exam, but we don’t care if you need to do anything about the results. Good luck!”

So, now I’m down to the fact that I am on a tight budget. I bring in $881/mo from disability. By the time I finish paying bills, I have about $77 left over. Then, I have to buy gas. I get around $40 in gas every other month. So, that brings us down to $37 on the gas-needing months. And, on the months I don’t need gas, that $40 usually goes toward extra food.

Now, let me put this into tighter perspective. I get $71 in SNAP benefits. Plus $37, is $108. When I’m on my normal diet, the unhealthy diet, I can make this stretch for groceries. Though, lately, I’ve had to get help from friends and family.

I’m not even sure how I’m going to get healthy food on $108. What am I supposed to do about my eyesight? I kind of rely on it for a source of income, or I will when I start publishing the things I’m writing now. Scary stuff. Not as daunted as I should be, because I know I can get good glasses from zennioptical.com for $50 including shipping and stuff. However, it may take me a while to get up that $50. Here’s hoping.

Smoking is bad, mm’kay?

My e-cigarette ran out of nicotine juice around 5am. I was still blazing my way through a story, and the smoke shop doesn’t open until 9am. Instead of forcing myself to go to bed at 5am like any other normal being would, I drove myself to the gas station and bought a pack of real cigarettes.

I then proceeded to come home and smoke them like they were my ecig. Let me tell you how bad I feel right now. Not, “I did a bad…” bad. The, “I got hit by a truck, and it infused me with its exhaust” bad. I have no energy. My eyes are super dry. My throat hurts. I can’t taste anything. I can’t get rid of this incessant headache. I keep losing focus. And, what’s worse, is when I got back from getting new e-liquid from the smoke shop, it tastes nothing like what I sampled at the shop, and I keep having the urge to go buy another pack of the real stuff.

I should get my shipment of my regular stuff sometime tomorrow or the day after. Pray for me. …Or rather, pray I don’t rip anyone’s head off. ❤

Hopefully tomorrow brings good news. I’ll see you then!

 

Day 4

Good news! I figured out why my stomach kept screaming at me yesterday! Apparently, there are studies everywhere that say artificial sweeteners increase hunger. So, I gave up Diet Pepsi today and went to tap water flavored with Dasani Drops (current drops are strawberry-kiwi flavored!) So far today, my hunger has been manageable, and my urge to go after the nutella jar has been greatly diminished.

On another note, the Hot Pockets in my freezer are really insistent. Not in the “You must gorge on me!” way, but in the nagging “I know you’re out there…” way. The creepy way. So, since I only have eight left, I decided that now that I have my hunger under control with giving up the Diet Pepsi, I could replace two Carnation Instant Breakfast (CIB) shakes with one Hot Pocket a day. I’ll still be around my target calorie intake, and I will slowly get rid of temptation.

The Nutella? I may just have to give that away, or put it somewhere out of sight and hope I forget about it. I know I should give that away, but I planned on using that once a week as my weekly treat. Still, though. It needs to shut up and leave me alone the rest of the time!

Fitness is Slow and Painful

So, let me tell you how much my legs and back hurt yesterday. It was not a pleasant thing. Not at all. Needless to say, I took a day off from the Gazelle. Not a permanent thing, but I would rather be safe than sorry. Especially since just throwing my back out and spending last week on muscle relaxers and Aleve. If I need to take today off (I’m still super sore), I’ll give my hand weights a try and have an arm day. Wish I would have thought of that yesterday, but I was full-derp from resetting my sleep schedule. The sleep schedule reset failed, by the way…

May definitely need a new source of liquid diet

Let me tell you about milk farts. They are not pleasant. Apparently, I am lactose intolerant. More so than I previously thought. And, even 0% milk is giving me gas pain and messing with my stool. Cheese doesn’t usually bother me (that I notice), but being on a liquid diet that consists of 6 packets of No Sugar Added Carnation Instant Breakfast powder and 12 cups of milk a day is making me miserable. And, I don’t know what to do. I hate all of the milk alternatives out there like Lactaid and almond milk. Even if I didn’t hate it, almond and rice milks are too expensive. My grocery bill needs to come in under $150 a month, and that is including EBT from SNAP Benefits.

I’m considering pushing through, but I need to find some alternatives if that isn’t possible. I may revert back to a solid food diet, and figure out some healthy things to make in the crock pot until I can figure things out. I really need to browse online for some good, healthy recipes.

Interesting Discoveries

Browsing the internet for diet help, I came across several WebMD articles that helped me to figure out what I had been doing wrong, and how to get back on track. Now, I don’t really know how well they will work, based on my past history, but it’s worth trying a few of the things out.

For starters, I found out that my six meal a day thing is a good habit to retain, so long as the meals are small and low in calories, and consist of healthy food. I learned portion size (ugh), how to curb my emotional eating, some tips on what foods to eat to help shed the weight, and some tips on how to not hate my vegetables. This article gave me a good guide on how to incorporate all the rest of what I learned without resorting to fad dieting methods I tried to incorporate many times over the course of my life. And then there is this article that focuses on how to lose weight when you’re obese. Since my ultimate goal is to get down to 150 pounds, I found the last article really helpful. Losing 100 pounds in a year would be awesome, but I will be happy with 50 for now. The other 50 would be a huge bonus.

Work In Progress

I don’t count my “cheating” as a diet failure. I’m a work in progress, and from my cheating I figured out some important things. I feel more satisfied if I can chew something. And since gum makes me nauseous, and because my CIB is so full of lactose that screws with my digestive tract, I may need to go on a solid food diet, and just change the solid foods that I have in my house. It helped me to go, in desperation, to the internet for advice and tips, and I found awesome things. It also helped me to figure out what my snacking triggers are.

So, hopefully, going forward, I will be more prepared for the setbacks, and can formulate a good and healthy grocery list for this month. It also prepared me for my son’s Special Olympics on the 7th of this month. There are so few healthy options at the food stands, and the only thing healthy I remember from last year was water. So, time to pack myself a cooler of things I won’t mind giving up a Walking Taco for!

Wish me luck, and I will be back tomorrow! Thanks for reading.